June 20, 2024

121. Creating Healthy Attachment (When You’re Anxious or Avoidant) with Silvy Khoucasian

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Show Notes

“Understanding our attachment styles and how they influence our relationships can transform the way we connect with others. It's not about reaching a perfect state of secure attachment but about attuning to our own needs and those of our partners. This journey is a lifelong process of learning, growing, and healing together.” — Silvy Khoucasian

Today on Men, This Way:

5:05 – Silvy's inspiration for exploring attachment styles during her psychology studies
6:15 – The attachment theory and how childhood experiences with caregivers shape adult relationships
7:42 – The different attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful avoidant
10:10 – Personal experiences and realizations around attachment styles in dating and relationships
12:32 – How attachment styles manifest in relationships and the importance of awareness
15:04 – Tools and practices for identifying your attachment style
18:34 – The role of family systems and childhood responsibilities in developing attachment patterns
21:12 – Healing and developing secure attachment through relationships and self-awareness
24:08 – The importance of creating agreements and consistency in relationships for healing
27:20 – How different attachment styles magnetize towards each other and the opportunities for healing
29:02 – The balance between independence and interdependence in relationships
31:32 – The gifts and challenges of each attachment style and finding balance
35:13 – The importance of direct communication and creating secure functioning patterns in relationships
39:21 – Brian and Silvy's personal journey and the strategies they use to support each other's needs
44:16 – The long-term commitment to relationship growth and healing over years
47:45 – The role of professional support in working through attachment patterns